What Can I Do? How Can I Get What I Want?

Aunt Bettie agreed to look after my house while Idoing what needed doing if I knew what it was and
went on vacation.how to get started. Gardening is Aunt Bettie’s
She isn’t my Aunt Bettie, she’sworld, as coaching is mine, and she simply knows her
Etta’s Aunt Betty. Etta is my neighbor acrossstuff and knows what to do. And the most
the street, who’s a doctor, and Aunt Bettie,important thing she did was come over there with
who is in her late 70’s, comes over and takesthe right tools and do it with me.
care of Etta’s garden.She didn’t waste a lot of time talking about it,
When I returned from my vacation, Aunt Bettie hadshe didn’t try and explain anything to me, she
taken my hanging basket across the street to careshowed me what to do by doing it herself, joyously,
for it, and things otherwise looked fine. As I chattedand she only took the first step with me. She
with her, to thank her for looking after the house,didn’t take the whole monkey on her back. I
she was pulling plants out of Etta’s garden,have momentum now, with my garden. I see what
live healthy plants. “Giving the others room toto do and how to do it, and it’s ready for the
breathe,” she told me when I inquired —next step. I so much appreciated Aunt Bettie
after all it isn’t that easy to grow anything indidn’t just tell me that my garden was a
South Texas in August — “so there can bemess, or that I should go weed it, or that I
new growth and life.”didn’t have the right tools, or that I ought to
Hmm, I thought.be ashamed my garden looked like that!
“I’m dying to get my hands on YOURThe best part is how much lighter I feel. Like any
garden,” she said. No fool, I jumped on that one! I“toleration,” walking past that garden every day
had vague misgivings about my garden, knowingwas something dragging at me that I was only
something should be done, but that was as far as itvaguely aware of. Now that it’s something I
went. I have other priorities.can be proud, something that I (with Aunt
Within 5 minutes Aunt Bettie was over at my houseBettie’s help) did something about, I can feel
with her gloves, lopper and shears, pruning and pullingthe self-esteem and own it, which is, in EQ terms,
and teaching me.Personal Power.
An hour later we had removed a lot of this and that,Yesterday I went and bought a small fountain. It was
including pruning all the roses down to the core, andonly $79 at HomeDepot, and has a pump to recycle
as we stood back and surveyed the area she said,the tiny bit of water it uses — maybe one
“There. Now it looks like it’s ready forquart. I sent a photo of it to my sister, who wrote
something to happen. And all these things will comeback she was sorry she couldn’t have a
back fuller and stronger. You need to prune.”fountain in her (beautiful) garden in her home in San
“In my life,” I asked, as she is a wise womanDiego. “We don’t have enough water,”
and doesn’t miss a trick. She gave me a winkshe said.
and went on with her digging.“It’s recycled water,” I began … and
Of course I applied this to my life, and to myso Aunt Bettie’s gift goes on, and we extend
profession — coaching. It fits right in withthe learning. My sister now has a fountain, something
tolerations, removing obstacles, and the attractionshe “never thought she could have.”
principle. Also with taking action — taking theCoaching is very much like that. We simply work
first step.together to get results!
Most important to me was to realize that I would be